Be Who You Need To Be

Be Who You Need To Be

By Neal Martin/ September 6, 2015
Last Updated April 27, 2023

The other day I came across a quote by Jim Rohn that reminded me of something profoundly important, something that I had let myself forget, and because of that, I am now suffering the consequences.

The quote I’m talking about is this one:

Your level of success will rarely exceed your level of personal development, because success is something you attract by the person you become.

Such a philosophy isn’t new to me. I have known it to some degree for a long time, but only really took action on it about five years ago when I made some big changes in my life.

Becoming Who I Needed To Be

At the time of these changes, the world around me was also changing rapidly. The economy (if such a thing even exists in this controlled society of ours) was collapsing, and it seemed like the whole of society was collapsing along with it.

Like a lot of other people in the world, those changes had a detrimental effect on me and my lifestyle, at least in the beginning. I ended up out of work and broke, struggling under a mountain of debt.

In the beginning, I got depressed and defeated by these unasked for changes happening in my life. I just wanted things to go back to the way things were, when I had money and a comfortable lifestyle.

But then I realized that was the real problem. The comfortable lifestyle. As cushy as it was, I was going nowhere with it.

Once I accepted this, I was able to look at my circumstances and see an opportunity for change, rather than an excuse to wallow in depression and self-pity.

So from that moment on, I worked hard at creating a different life for myself, despite everything.

It was clear to me at the time that in order to do this, not only did I have to take massive action, but I also had to become a different person than who I was before.

I needed to be someone who could create the kind of changes and success I was looking for.

I became that person eventually. I affected the change I wanted to see in my life. It was a struggle of course, but I fucking did it.

Now, a few years later, I have made myself into a writer. It is how I earn most of my living.

Being a writer has now become my main purpose in life.

But today, I just realized that I have gone off course again. More specifically, I have settled into another comfort zone.

I have ceased to grow as a person.

Sure, I get a fair bit of writing done, I publish books. I’m a writer. To all intents and purposes, I’ve made it.

Only I haven’t.

I may be writing, but I’m still not seeing the results that I want. Not by a long shot.

And let me be clear: This isn’t just about doing better work, or becoming a better marketeer, or getting better covers for my books, or a better editor or any of that stuff.

Yes, that shit matters. It effects the results I get.

But what effects the results even more is the kind of person I am at present.

Getting Better Results

The kind of person I am now is the person who gets the kinds of results I currently get.

If I want bigger and better results, I need to be a different person to get those results.

It is really quite simple when you look at like that.

And true.

When I see a person who is highly successful in their chosen field, I see someone who is exactly who they need to be to get those kinds of results.

They have made themselves into that person, the kind of person who can step up a level, or several levels, and do what has to be done to get the results they want.

I have experienced the lack of growth I am talking about many times in my life, so I feel well qualified to know what the signs are, the biggest of which is living in a bubble of comfort where nothing much changes except what day it is.

I might be getting some results from what I am doing at the moment, but because of that, I have allowed myself to think that all I have to do is keep doing what I’m doing and the bigger and better results will eventually come.

But that’s the definition of insanity, is it not? Doing the same shit over and over and expecting different results?

I think it is.

My Third Eye Has Been Squeez-ed

Bill Hicks used to talk about “squeez-ing your third eye”, to see what is clearly in front of you. Admittedly, Bill was talking more in a spiritual sense when he said that, but the concept of seeing clearly, and awakening in a way, applies to your own personal development as well.

Often, there will come a point in your life when you suddenly realize with complete clarity that things have to change. That you can’t keep going on the way you have been going.

Like I said, I have had a few such awakenings, so I know what they feel like. Which is why I know I’m having one now.

So now, I will do things that will allow me to up my productivity, my creativity and everything else involved in being a writer. I will step things up until I start to see different results.

It will be hard, especially in the beginning, and especially since it involves a few lifestyle changes, like getting up early every morning and deliberately doing personal development work. When you are so fond of the vampire shift like me, that shit can be hard, but I will have to do it.

And I will, simply because my purpose now demands it. Me being a writer now also means I have an obligation to do that, to the best of my ability. If that’s my purpose, then I don’t have a choice.

And I kind of like that. Feeling obligated. It leaves less room for excuses.

Affecting change will not be easy for me. In fact, I will probably fucking hate it-and myself-from the get go. I may slip back into my old ways, sometimes or a lot, I’m not sure which.

But having done this shit before, I now know I can do it. I can step things up when I have to, when I’m driven enough to do so, and right now, I feel that drive.

Which is good, because I am going to need it.

One response to “Be Who You Need To Be”

  1. Jeanenne Avatar

    Very inspiring post. Thank you!

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